Based on the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders statistics, about 30 million Americans live with an eating disorder. Eating disorders are the third most common chronic illness among adolescent females in the United States. Many parents hate seeing their child struggle with such a complex illness and tend to blame themselves. The most common question that parents will ask is “Is the eating disorder my fault?” However, eating disorders are not the parents’ fault. Parents are never to blame for their child’s eating disorder.
Am I to Blame?
Humans tend to look for cause and effect and like to point fingers. However, sometimes it’s not that simple. There are multiple factors that can contribute to an eating disorder including the fact that eating disorders are mental illnesses rooted in psychology. While you are not to blame for your child’s eating disorder, families play a very important role in eating disorder treatment and recovery. It’s best if you don’t spend time focusing on what caused the illness and put your time and energy towards supporting your child in the recovery process instead.
What Does Cause an Eating Disorder?
Eating disorders can be hereditary. Research has found that genetics are responsible for 40-50% of the risk of developing an eating disorder. Even though eating disorders can run in families, remember that genetics is not your fault. Eating disorders are also rooted in psychology. They can relate to the personality traits of the individual, as well as maladaptive patterns of thought that develop as a result of anxiousness, harm avoidance, rigidity and perfectionism. In addition, sociocultural messages can influence an eating disorder. Social media, facetuning body images, and the “ideal” body type can negatively impact your child. Lastly, the role of dieting and extreme exercising have also been labeled as a gateway to an eating disorder.
How can I Help?
If your a parent of a child with an eating disorder, you should first begin to learn about eating disorders and the recovery process. If you’ve reached this article that means you’re on your way there! Understanding and learning about eating disorders and their recovery process will help you be the best support system you can be for your child. Another way to learn more is to turn to an experienced eating disorder specialist. You can take the time to educate your family and friends on eating disorders as well. Most importantly, you should have an open and direct dialogue with your child. Here is a thorough handbook that will help guide you through this process.
